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An article featuring on the daily mail today discussed the size of pregnancy bumps throughout pregnancy and how no ‘one size fits all’.
It seems incredulous that the size of pregnancy bumps is even a ‘thing’ now, we have previously discussed the pressures on women post partum to lose weight and to look how they did pre-pregnancy, without the stretch marks, the scars, the bruising, both internal and external, mental and physical. [Read here]
Now, it seems, pregnant women are being examined by their pregnancy bump outside of the realm of medical examination- it is known that during pregnancy, bumps are measured as a sign of baby’s growth. This is a technique used by the NHS, which may highlight any potential difficulties in pregnancy. This is separate from this discussion.
Women are being ridiculed for looking either ‘too big’ or ‘too small’ for their gestation period.
A number of things need to be flagged first of all;
- The size and appearance of bumps can change in subsequent pregnancies, often women in subsequent pregnancies have bigger bumps, although like everything, this isn’t always the case.
- Activity levels of mums fluctuate, some women are able to continue with their daily exercise regimen, (at a level that they deem appropriate for themselves as a pregnant woman, this may maintain or reduce,) where other mums are absolutely knackered by pregnancy. This is completely understandable given the extraordinary journey and physical exertion their bodies are going through.
- Morning sickness and Hyperemesis Gravidarum can really effect the life of a pregnant woman, this can be seen in regards to nutrition, energy and the physical and mental toll that sickness induces. This means that putting on pregnancy weight may slow, or the mum may actually lose weight.
- Mums also experience increased appetite, the levels of calorie intake increase according to NHS guidelines as the pregnancy progresses, but some mums can experience ravenous moments.
We shouldn’t penalise or scrutinise a mother’s bump, comments such as ‘wow, you look big,’ or ‘your bump is too small’ etc, can be damaging to the mum and can cause undue stress and worry. That mother who appears to have a small/big bump may find herself worrying unnecessarily at a throw away comment.
Tactfulness and awareness of mum’s who are going through an incredible experience should be emphasised. Comparing bumps or making comments when you know nothing about what that mother has experienced can only cause hurt and self consciousness, if there are any worries about growth and bumps, let the professionals investigate and explore those issues founded on medical practices rather than measurement by the naked eye, which can often be deceiving.
Bumps, in whatever size and shape, resemble the act of growing and nurturing. Pregnant Mama’s out there should be proud of their role in that journey – don’t be the person that taints it for them.
Have you ever experienced these type of comments? Did it effect you in any way? Get involved, leave me a comment and let me know!